Connections

Do you have time to truly connect? Yes, I did with my clients, but not always with my family.

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Connections

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Do you have time to truly connect? Yes, I did with my clients, but not always with my family.

According to Oxford Languages a relationship is a way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected. I think you will agree it is deeper if we look at ourselves and family and client relationships? 

As professionals often we invest an inordinate of time developing deep connections with others, recognising their perspective, emotions, not judging them and communicating their feelings back to them.  But do we build a relationship at home after we have spent all day with clients, or do we fail to connect with our family? I recently experienced being coached by a colleague using Magical U a picture game to identify hidden emotions that may limit or hinder relationships. In the deck one card stood out the picture indicated isolation form others and the words were ‘left out!

As the card was shown to me, I went silent and the coach said, “What’s going on?”  I said, “That’s me!” I could feel intense guilt and emptiness, I explained I had stopped creating a relationship with my family and with myself in pursuit of my work connections. It dawned on me I was left out of my family. Why I had done this was to build the business, but I had forgotten why I was building my business, which was for my family. What did I do? I relooked at my why, my vision and mission. I reconnected to what was important to me, I identified my strengths and blind spots. I re-connected my vision with my family and re centred my work.  

 What have you done today to build the relationship with your family so you can truly connect?

 Thanks to Jaz Goven and Sara Haboubi for the magical U experience    

Ian Clarke
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Solutions for your Workforce: MindSonar® , coaching, facilitation and consultancy. Asentiv Business coach.