Boundaries in Human Relationships

A sound, well-presented, easy read.

I found myself skim-reading for first few chapters. I guess I was hoping for a book with more depth around this complex and fascinating subject. (I'm always on the look-out for reading material that either puts a very new spin on a subject I'm familiar with or significantly challenges me with new information, research or an unfamiliar topic. This book did none of those things - but it was a good reminder of the basics of NLP and how they can apply to relationship boundaries).

I consider that this book is pitched at those with a basic-middling understanding of NLP. And it does draw upon, with relevance and clear explanation, a number of key NLP constructs including metaprograms, distortion/deletion/generalisation, body-mind connection, perceptual positions, parts.... (with the strong advice: "Do not attempt to do parts work with other people unless you are well trained in counselling and psychotherapy" which I approve of!)

The later chapters also have some useful comments about transference/counter transference within the therapeutic alliance and a helpful chapter illustrating the distinctions and 'types' of relationships that humans have.

There were moments were I felt a little talked at', when Anné was overtly expressing from her 'map'; but by the end I felt that the author was sincere. Anné's style is direct, for sure; but there's no denying her genuine love for people and her commitment to their wellbeing.

In terms of structure, the book is well-organised (if a little too reiterative over some points that Anné clearly regards as most significant); the book includes anecdotes from her own practice and is interspersed with metaphorical stories and occasional suggested step-by-step exercises (although these are limited).

All in all, a solid, easy read that should be recommended reading for all those working in the relationship space, coaches and therapists alike.