Words that Work

Wouldn't it be fantastic if you could simply wave a magic wand to get kids to do what you wanted?

Words that Work ISBN: 978-1-78462-371-5

Words that Work

By Alicia Eaton

RRP: £12.99

Matador (28 Sept. 2015)



Purchase Review

Wouldn't it be fantastic if you could simply wave a magic wand to get kids to do what you wanted? Too many parents, and teachers for that matter, struggle to get their requests heard, understood and taken seriously - kids just don't seem to be able to do as they're told nowadays. In Words that Work: How to Get Kids to Do Almost Anything, author Alicia Eaton, a leading Harley Street Hypnotherapist & Advanced NLP Practitioner, explains how much easier it is to get children to co-operate, simply by changing the vocabulary and structure of your sentences. She shows how powerful words are if you know about the NLP 'language of persuasion and influence'. And also shares the secret to slipping 'hypnotic influence' into day-to-day conversations. Originally a Montessori teacher and a mother to three, now grown-up children, Alicia's combined all her skills, knowledge and expert training to create this unique parenting system that really works. So whether the issue is mealtime arguments over fussy eating or junk food cravings; an anxiety or phobia about dogs, spiders, going to school or exams; a lack of confidence; bad habits such as nail-biting, thumbsucking or bedwetting, you'll quickly learn what to say and what not to say. You'll be able to put an end to the nagging and yelling that gets you nowhere and wears you out; reward systems and star charts that quickly lose their appeal; bribery and punishments that achieve nothing and make everyone feel bad. Parents who appear to have well-behaved, happy, high achieving kids are not just plain 'lucky' - quite simply, they're handling things differently and with a bit of inside knowledge, you can too.

Words that Work Wonders

I am writing this review not as a parent or teacher but as a Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner and lover of words. I work with young adults looking to build their confidence.

Let’s start at the beginning where we learn about the author’s background and the basics of the importance language has in influencing people. I found the introduction to be a great reminder of the reasons I love doing what I do and how a simple word exchange can give a huge shift in mindset.

As I read further into the book, I started to struggle to stay engaged with parts that I had no use for in my life at the moment such as tantrums and bits aimed to work with young children testing boundaries of their own communication skills.

The exercises throughout are clearly from a neurolinguistic background and adapted for the situation. Anyone who has studied NLP will recognise them and know the resulting benefits. I particularly enjoyed the development of circle of excellence to include as many sub-modalities as can be attached to embody and anchor confidence.

My favourite parts are towards the end. The reminders to parents and teachers to work from a low stress state by looking after themselves and communicating with supporters what the intentions and expectations are for communication with their children. Also, the pause button and confidence booster are must reads in my opinion.

In summary this is a great book for parents and teachers to adapt their language to see results in all areas of their childrens’ lives. I would highly recommend this book and would think if you easily fall back to your old language patterns when in a stressful situation that it would be best to reread the relevant part for the event with Chapter 12.

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