It’s not about Perfection, it’s about Connection

When we are connected to the heart’s inner knowing, it’s wisdom can be used as a source for love and greater, intelligent guidance.

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It’s not about Perfection, it’s about Connection

Posted by Rita Aleluia on

In ancestral cultures the heart appears as the symbol and source of health, wisdom, and intuition. From antiquity to today, it’s universally accepted that when we are connected to the heart’s inner knowing, it’s wisdom can be used as a source for love and greater, intelligent guidance. Even so, most of us have been educated by adults whom believes that the brain commands all body and the heart is constantly responding to "orders" sent by the brain in the form of neural signals.

But today, we already know, based in generative NLP and also science, that the heart truly sends more signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart! In fact, these heart signals have a meaningful effect on brain function - influencing and directing one's emotions, morality, emotional processing as well as higher cognitive capabilities such as attention, perception, memory, and decision-making solving. The brain continuously responds to the heart.

This is so crucial that the elevated feelings of the heart – care, compassion, gratitude, kindness… are the core values of Generative Parenting. These are feelings and emotions that fill us up and lead us to sense wholeness, connectedness, and oneness. Because when we are vibrating in these feelings and emotions, that has a lifting effect on others within our field.

So, an everyday essential practice is to create heart-brain coherence. It requires knowledge and practice. In order to transform our lives, we really need to set and combine a clear intention - coherent brain - with an elevated emotion - coherent heart. Because when we set a clear intention it generates a thought that contains electrical charge, and the feeling or emotion operate as a magnetic charge. What happens? Our energy changes and we change our life!

When we sincerely connect with our hearts and open our hearts, let go of the past, hold, integrate and transcend, we reset into a harmonious state. We increase a new freedom to create our future.

It’s quick to get heart centered:

  1. Find a quiet moment in your day;
  2. Find calm in your body and mind by paying attention to your breath;
  3. Each time you take a breath, slow it down - inhale in 5, exhale in 5 - place your awareness where your heart is;
  4. Practice cultivating and expand those elevated emotions that connect us to everyone and everything.

Don’t force or try to be perfect, just connect with the heart. I see the transformations occurring in every single family that walk the path of NLP & Generative Parenting, by committing to connect with the heart, the center of our authentic self. I believe a community with compassion and kindness in their hearts can change the world for the greater good, that’s what Generative Parenting Village is all about!

As Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, shares in ‘The Little Prince’: here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.

Imagine what we might collectively evolve if we all practice heart brain coherence?


Rita Aleluia
Rita Aleluia (Member post)

Through NLP, we choose to be conscious parents, committed to our essence, connect with our intentions and children. It's not about perfection, it's about connection.